I tend to lapse into bouts of negativity in dealing with people. They disappoint and seldom can reach my high standards, particularly when it comes to animal care. It is easier for me to criticize, place blame, pass judgement than it is to do the opposite. And doing the opposite seldom gets the desired result, which is exclusively my way. Rather, I end up mired in deep doggie do do. This is not a good place to be. The smell is bad and the view is less than spectacular.
This is not my best writing because I am in the process of making some huge cognitive leaps. But I will continue on, and do the best I can do. Horses do not have fully developed prefrontal cortexes. Humans, not horse, plan, scheme, connive. Horses are pretty much in the moment, as in there is hay in that shed and you are standing between me and it, and I want it now.
This morning I used the clicker and positive reinforcement training in working with the horses, most specifically in going to get them their morning hay. It went fairly well. It sure felt better than whapping on them with the crop. Raudi was the best because she’s had the most of this kind of training.
After feeding and cleaning up, I came back inside. There is that world and there is this world. I immediately snapped at Pete because he hadn’t given the chickens and goats fresh water, and was going to tell me to do this. I stomped and stormed around some. I was, I sensed, being the antithesis of my clicker training self. Pete went ahead and took care of the supposed problem.
I sat down and drank some tea and began eating the breakfast that Pete had prepared for us both. And I immediately felt better. In eating, I activated my parasympathetic nervous system (rest and relaxation) and deactivated my sympathetic nervous system (flight and fight). The parallel here is that the same thing happens when the horses eat. And as with the horses, as was with me, all was right with the world. And because all was right with the world, I began saying nice things to Pete – things that I actually meant. And as I did this, I saw his face muscles relax. I was indeed, putting positive reinforcement theory to work.
The rest of our morning was peaceful and calm – the way it often is but should always be. This, my making the connection between my indoor and outdoor lives is huge. The first steps in this direction center around recognition and acknowledgement. The next step will involve making a concerted effort in putting theory to practice.
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